Why is it that certain situations cause me no anxiety whatsoever — like being on a stage — where as others, like approaching and starting a conversation with someone at an event, cause me massive anxiety, and as a result, I resist doing them?

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I guess the default answer is to go back to when I was a kid and isolate different situations that did or did not go well. There were certainly moments that were better (or worse) than others. …


“Own your own business”, they said “escape the 9–5”, “hustle”, they said. And I listened to all of those pieces of advice which definitely got me out of the “rat race” but also put me in another type of race, where now instead of having one boss, I have 500. Taking care of clients, babysitting employees, covering when they’re out, hiring, managing, marketing, and so much more. Small business owners are bombarded with a huge amount of responsibility, and those who are willing to hustle, I believe are at risk of succumbing to the “busy-ness” of business.

In all of…


I used to dream of retiring at 30, and while I can’t say I’m “retired” I have, through systems, automation, and staffing, been able to create a situation where I can manage my business and generate a healthy income while working less than 15 hours a week.

Of course, it took years of searching to get there, and also involved me having to start the business while working a full-time job and of course adopt the “hustle culture” into my life. …


Since I was 18 and discovered “The Four-Hour Workweek”, I’ve attempted to escape the “rat race”…even before I joined it. After a lot of twists and turns, meeting the right person (my wife) to help me get focused, and some very good timing, I’ve been able to establish a business that affords me some time to really reflect on entrepreneurship. …


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When I was 6 years old, I watched my mom launch her own small jewelry business, where she would visit craft shows with cases of jewelry and make a little extra money. After visiting a craft show with her, I had the genius idea…”hm…there are girls in my class at school…I bet THEY would want some of this jewelry!” So the following week, I brought a butterfly ring to school. I showed it off to some of the girls in my class. I don’t exactly even remember how I brought it up to them…but I assume it was something like…


It seems like every tie I read something about personal development it eventually ends up in one of two conclusions.

  1. Meditate
  2. Be grateful

I’ve definitely tried to meditate more than once, including a 30-day stint at an ashram and a 10-day silent meditation retreat. I’ve also tried gratitude, keeping a list of 3–10 things I’m grateful for at both the beginning and end of the day.

What I’ve learned is that neither is a quick success bullet like I had hoped.

Gratitude in particular feels impossible at times, especially for an “entitled millennial” like myself, I often find myself nit-picking…


Literally, run. I have avoided running for years, ever since our PE teachers forced us to run a mile in middle school. Actually, one of those fateful 7th grade PE days a friend and I tried to finagle the running track, which looped around a field twice and ended around the tennis courts. We walked as slow as we could, getting to the finish line just after the 5-minute mile maniacs.

Needless to say, coach caught on and it was another failed attempt at laziness. However, I’ve since been able to avoid running for years, and particularly avoid it because…


There is something absolutely electrifying about comedic thoughts that pop out spontaneously. I love comedy, and while my fiance and I rarely watch any TV, when we do, we watch a show Impractical Jokers, just full of completely ridiculous antics between 4 friends, unscripted and in-the-moment.

I can certainly appreciate stand-up comedy, but I have to really be into what the person is saying. …


I came to the conclusion today that stress is not something caused by external events. It’s not that having $100 in your bank account creates stress, it’s that being in that position is something you care deeply about. More importantly, if you care deeply about being the kind of person who is on top of things, the kind of person who pays their bills on time, and who enjoys a Starbucks every once in a while, this is going to create a lot of stress for you.

On the other hand, if you are not concerned about your credit score…


What do you do when you realize you’ve spent the majority of the past decade of your life trapped in a complete cliché?

When you realize you, too, are the result of participation trophies, being told you were special, and that you could do anything, if you just set your mind to it?

What do you do when you’re the subject of criticism from those you look up to?

I guess you find a way to change.

I thought for a long time that I was different from the peers around me. I desperately tried to find avenues for my…

Phoenix R.

Founder of Uke Crazy and elementary music teacher.

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